Mafai e le aufaasālalau lautele ona togafitia le faanoanoa?

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LaʻauMark Earl's tusi, Laʻau, has been a tough read for me. Don't take that the wrong way. It's an amazing book that I found through Hugh McLeod's blog.

I say ‘tough' because it's not a 10,000 foot view. Herd (How to change mass behaviour by harnessing our true nature) is a complex book that thoroughly details a plethora of studies and data to come up with its core premise. As well, Mark Earls is not your average business book author – reading his book makes me feel like I'm reading a book that's totally out of my league (it really is!). If you're an intellectual and appreciate deep, deep thinking and the supporting criteria – this is your book.

If you're faking it like me, it's a great book as well. 🙂 I might mutilate some of the rich content by writing about it here, but what the heck! I'm going for it.

Pepa Faʻasalalau LauteleOne topic that Mark touches on is depression. Mark mentions two common causes of depression – a parents' relationship with their child and a person's relationships with other people. I can't help but wonder if Social Media isn't the best alternative to Prozac for curing social ills such as depression. Social Media brings a promise of connecting with others that aren't outside your local circle at home, the office, or even in your neighborhood.

Twitter, WordPress, Facebook, Gather, online Games… all of these applications aren't simply ‘Web 2.0', they are means of communicating with one another. No wonder why social applications are so popular. Isn't it much easier to open up to people with the safety of the Internet between us?

I se konafesi i ni nai masina talu ai, ou te manatua ai se tamaitai na fesili:

O ai nei tagata ma faʻafefea mai latou i luga ole laiga i itula uma o le aso? Don't they have a life?

It's an interesting perspective!, isn't it? I suspect that for many people, this is their life. This is their connection to others, their hobbies, their interests, their friends and their support. In the past, a ‘loner' really had to live alone. But today, a ‘loner' doesn't have to! He/She can find other loners with the same hobbies!

Some might argue that this type of ‘social' network and its accompanying safety net aren't as healthy as a real relationship and human contact. They may be right… but I'm not sure that people are treating this as an alternative. For many people, this is pau a latou auala o fesoʻotaʻiga.

In High School a friend of mine, Mark, was an amazing artist. He was a big bear of a guy. He had a full beard in 10th grade and wrote comic books with stories of Vampires and Werewolves. I loved hanging out with Mark but I could always tell that he was uncomfortable around everyone – even me. I don't think he was depressed at all, but he was pretty quiet except for the occasional growl (I growled back).

I can honestly imagine Mark being a famous eclectic artist, now, or perhaps living in the wilderness by himself today. I can't help but wonder, though. Had Mark had a blog and an outlet to publish his incredible tales, I think he would have connected with thousands of others with the same interests. He would have had a social network – a network of friends and fans that encouraged and appreciated him.

I'm in no way inferring that we bloggers are escaping depression or loneliness through our writing. We do; however, harness much respect from our readers. I'm no different. If I see someone ganging up on another blogger who is a friend of mine, I'll jump in and defend him. If I hear of a blogger that's taken ill, I genuinely pray for him and his family. And when a blogger stops blogging, I really do miss hearing from them.

Working a 50 to 60 our week and being a single father, I don't have much of “Se olaga” (pei ona faʻamatalaina e le fafine na ou taʻua) i fafo atu o laʻu blog ma laʻu galuega. Ae o le mea e malie ai, laʻu ola online is incredibly supportive, happy and promising. I'm a truly happy (non-medicated but overweight) guy. I don't believe that I'm trying to replace one with another. I think both are just as important and rewarding. In fact, I believe that my ‘online' life has pushed me into being a better communicator in my ‘real' life. It's therapeutic for me to write and it feels great when I get feedback on my writing (even if it's negative).

The truth is, if I didn't have the support network that I have with you folks… I probably mafai ona be unhappy and could slip into depression. I'd probably be playing video games by night and making my colleagues miserable during the day.

I'd much rather take my Web 2.0 Pills every day.

9 Faamatalaga

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    Muamua ou te le talitonu o le sosaiete Upega Tafaʻilagi 2.0 i ai mea e pei o Twitter, blog ma isi mea e latalata i se fofo mo mea e pei o le faʻanoanoaga ma ou te matua le malie i le faʻamatalaga a Mark mo mafuaʻaga o le faʻanoanoa.

    Ae fai mai, ou te talitonu i nisi auala o la matou fesoʻotaʻiga i luga o le upega tafaʻilagi e fesoasoani ai i le tagata lava ia, lagona o le soifua lelei ma i nisi tulaga fesoasoani tasi i ni taimi sili ona faigata i se tasi olaga. O le a ou agavaʻa e ui lava ou te le tuʻuina blog i luga o le tutusa tulaga pei o Twtitter ma isi (O le a ou faia se mea i luga o lena tasi o nei aso lata mai).

    Mo se faʻataʻitaʻiga o se vaega o WinExtra e iai foʻi laʻu IRC channel e faʻatasi-valaaulia (ae maise pe a ou iloa o tagata e faia le IRC i le taimi muamua) ma o se tasi o laʻu uo mamae i le tausaga ua teʻa na ia manaʻomia le faia o se taua ola suia e oʻo mai sau mausa. Na ia alualu i luma - lelei foi pei o le tasi e mafai ona i ai ma se faʻaopoopoga - ae na ia fai mai ia te aʻu i se tasi aso afai e le mo le IRC auala ma tagata iina na ia le faamaoni na te iloa pe na ia mafaia ona faʻataunuʻuina i lena taimi pogisa lava.

    I se tasi mataupu na tupu na o se tasi o tagata leva na gaoia o WinExtra forums ma IRC auala taofi faʻamauina pe faʻaali mai i le auala. I le isi itu, o tagata totino e toʻalua i le Iunaite Setete na matua popole lava ma amata le gaioiga o le taumafai e siaki ia na faia ia mautinoa o ia o lelei. Lenei aso na faafuaseʻi lava ona aliali mai i le auala ma e pei o se uo ua leva na leiloa mulimuli ane toe foi mai i le fale - uma mo ia ma i tatou.

    Lenei o le alalafaga ma e ui lava e le ogignate i le Upega Tafaʻilagi 2.0 lalolagi o agafesootai fesoʻotaʻiga o le a ou avea lena i luga o soʻo se Facebook po o le Twitter nuʻu i soʻo se taimi. Faʻatasi ai ma lena mea ou te manatu e faʻaalia ai afai o se 'upega tafaʻilagi alualu i luga e umi le ola ma loloto o uo (lea afai e te malamalama o la matou fonotaga faʻalaʻitiiti e pei ona latou i ai mo le ono ma sili atu tausaga) e faia se vaega o le olaga o se tagata sili atu ma avatu ia te oe se lagona o le auai - o le mea moni na o matou tagata uma manaʻomia mai o matou olaga.

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    Talofa Steven,

    Na ou lapataʻi atonu na ou faaleagaina upu a Mareko… e pei na ou faia! Faʻasino e Mareko nisi tala i luga o faʻanoanoaga ma e le o faʻapea mai o nei mea na o le pau ia o mafuaʻaga o le faʻanoanoa - ua naʻo ni ulugaliʻi na taʻua. O le talitonuga o le Social Media ma o le avanoa e fesoasoani ai i le faʻanoanoa e le o Mark's, o se tasi lea ou te mafaufau iai.

    Tala mataʻutia e uiga i lou nuʻu ma oute malilie faʻatasi ma oe - o le avea ma se mea e manaʻomia e tagata uma ona maloloina. Ou te manatu o le aufaasālalau lautele e tuua i tatou tatala e 'auai' i alalafaga tatou te le mafai ona aafia i se isi.

    Faʻafetai mo le tulaga ese faʻamatalaga!
    Doug

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    Lelei tele post, Doug! Ou te mauaina fesoʻotaʻiga vavavevave o se auala e fesoʻotaʻi ai ma lagona ma olaga o le tele o tagata ou te manatu o uo, nisi o latou e oʻo lava i uo, ma aʻafia isi olaga ia na semanu ou te le lava itula i le aso e faia ai . A ou vaʻai i se uo o loʻo manaʻomia se fesoasoani, e mafai ona ou fesoʻotaʻi vave e vaʻai le mea e mafai ona ou faia e tuʻuina atu ai le lagolago. Na ou maua foi uo (oe aofia ai!) E ala i le eletise fesoʻotaʻiga na semanu ou te leʻo iloaina lelei faʻapea foi, lea na liua ai i fafo faʻauooga faʻapea foi.

    PS Na ou misia au tusitusiga o aso uma a o e pisi i lau poloketi ma suiga. Ua ou fiafia lava e vaʻai talu ai nei au pou!

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      Faʻafetai Julie! O loʻo ou taumafai e toe foʻi i se saoasaoa lelei ae o loʻo ou tauivi. Ou te faigaluega umi itula ma ua ou faʻaopopo faʻamalositino (mafaufau i lena!) I le fefiloi. Ou te leʻi iloa le auala saʻo - O loʻu auleaga tele ma loʻu lelava.

      O le a ou alu atu iina!

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    Ou te malie atoatoa i le talitonuga o le faʻaaogaina o ala o faasalalauga i luga o le upega tafailagi o se lelei togafitiga mea e fai. Mo aʻu, ua ou iloaina e sili ona lelei ma faasaolotoina mo aʻu e tusi e uiga i oʻu lagona. Tusa lava pe leai seisi e faitauina. E i ai le mana i le moni tusia i lalo. Ou te fiafia foʻi i nofoaga e pei o Facebook ma MySpace. Latou te faʻatagaina tagata e faʻafesoʻotaʻi sili atu nai lo le mea latou te mafaia pe a fai latou te leʻi mauaina lena fesoʻotaʻiga. Faʻafetai mo le lafoina o lenei faʻamatalaga e uiga i 'upega tafaʻilagi upega tafailagi. Ou te faamoemoe o le tele ma sili atu o tagata maua le lelei i ai.

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      E mautinoa lava o tatou o ni manu feoaʻi, a ea o Jason? Afai e leai se auala mo matou e fegalegaleai ai, ou te mautinoa o lena e mafai ona taitai atu ai i le tele o agafesootai faaletonu ma mafai ona paʻuʻu i isi mataupu.

      Faʻapei o oe, ua ou maua tusitusiga pei o se sili atu faʻamatuʻu alatoto alatoto. Faʻapea foi, pe a faʻafetai mai se tasi ia te aʻu pe lafo mai e uiga i mea na ou tusiaina - o mea ofoofogia ia mo le tagata ia te ia lava!

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    Ou te lagona o le tiga mai le faʻanoanoa e mafai moni ona faʻamamaina o se iuga o le aʻafia i agafesoʻotaʻi gaioiga gaioiga. Vaʻai i suʻesuʻega faʻapitoa mai tagata taʻitoʻatasi oe auai i le Second Life mo se faʻataʻitaʻiga. E mafai ona latou fausia ni avatars faʻavae i luga o le tino uiga latou te manaʻo ai ma fesoʻotaʻi ma tagata i tulaga latou te ono le mafai muamua. E naʻo le tasi le faʻataʻitaʻiga.

    O aʻu foʻi na molimauina le auala e fesoasoani ai le aufaasālalau. Sa ou mataʻituina le talanoaga a le kulupu o le MySpace depression e auiliili ai pe faʻafefea ona faʻalagolago tagata o loʻo pagatia ile faʻanoanoaga, popole, bipolar, OCD, ma isi i nei pitonuʻu mo le lagolago. A o matamata i le talanoaga tatala, sa ou matamata a o talanoaina e se tagata le afaina o ia lava. Na vave oso le nuu ma fesoasoani i fafo. Na pei o le MySpace afioʻaga galue pei o lona laina faʻaola.

    Ou te manatu o le a agaʻi i ai agafesoʻotaʻi o le a tatou vaʻaia ai le tele o tautua ua avanoa faʻapitoa tuʻuina atu i pule faapitoa. Tagata mamaʻi pei o aʻu (o laʻu paaga ua tuanaʻi o ia sa ou faia suʻesuʻega i lena taimi) o loʻo aumaia faʻatasi tagata puapuagatia mai ituaiga eseese o faʻanoanoaga ina ia mafai ona fefaʻasoaaʻi o latou poto masani ma fesoʻotaʻi ma le tasi. O se meafaigaluega ofoofogia ma na o le alu e faʻaali atu ia te oe le mamana o agafesoʻotaʻi fesoʻotaʻiga i le taofia o tagata tagata vae i luga o le eleele. O le mea lelei o se fesoʻotaʻiga fesoʻotaʻi pei o PLM naʻo le faʻatagaina o tagata o loʻo mafatia mai se tuʻufaʻatasiga e auai i le kulupu. Lenei matua faʻateleina le auai tulaga aua latou te iloa latou te le o tuʻulafoaʻia.

    Faʻafetai mo lenei tulaga sili Doug!

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    Ou te manatu o ala o faasalalauga e mafai ona fesoasoani i tagata e feagai ma faʻanoanoaga, aisea e le mafai ai?

    O laʻu filosofia o tagata uma tatou, ma mea uma i le lalolagi e fesoʻotaʻi uma. Na matou omai uma mai le tasi mea e maua mai ai le malosi, ma o le faʻanoanoaga o se iʻuga o se lagona o le vavaeʻese mai lenei mafuaʻaga.

    Ioe ou te iloa e foliga mai fou uma tausaga. Ae o se faigofie mataupu, ma e talafeagai ia te aʻu.

    Ou te le manatu o sosaiete faʻasalalau o se fofo, ae e aumaia faʻatasi tagata, ma o le mea lena tatou te manaʻomia uma i lo tatou autu tagata.

    O laʻu tama teine ​​laʻititi e faʻaaluina le tele o ana taimi i luga ole laiga i luga ole laiga e taʻu o le nexopia. Na feiloaʻi o ia i le tele o ana uo, i le lotoifale ma isi nofoaga i luga o lenei upega tafailagi. O 'upega tafaʻilagi e fesoasoani ia matou e feiloaʻi ma tagata e tutusa o latou fiafia iai, ma o ni mea faigaluega e fesoʻotaʻi ai matou ma uo o loʻo iai nei, ma uo tuai.

    Sa ou faitauina le "O Le Mana o Lenei" saunia e Eckhart Tolle. Lenei tusi alu auiliiliina e uiga i le mafuaaga tatou te lagona ai le faʻanoanoa, popolevale ma sili atu.

    Na ia ofoina mai le tali e "ola ai i le taimi nei" o se fofo. Ou te malie, ma recomment foi lenei tusi mo soʻo se tasi e fiafia i se philisophical taiala i le fiafia.

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